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Niece creeped out by homosexual narcissist
ChristianGovernance eletter – September 17, 2012
Narcissism – “a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.”
The piece below isn’t sexually explicit, but it is offensive in several respects. Nevertheless, it is such a clear illustration of the narcissistic self-centeredness, and staggering capacity for immaturity that exists among today’s sensual-driven, materialistic postmodernists. It’s an attitude that is not exclusive to those engaged in same-sex sexual activity. One can, however, expect those preoccupied with sex and sensuality – the homosexual subculture being one such segment of society, as evidenced by their “Pride” parades every year – to be particularly self-absorbed. This to such an extent that they lose the rational capacity to appreciate the moral and reasonable objections to their outlandish and offensive ideas. They lose all sense of proportion when it comes to moral reflection. This can be outright dangerous and life-threatening in some cases. Consider the reports one hears from time to time about teen men and women who decide to kill somebody else just because they are bored or because they want to know what it feels like to kill someone. In the homosexual case below, though, we’re not talking about a 16-year-old, we’re talking about a 60-year-old. Homosexuality does indeed cultivate extremes of deviant and socially disfunctional attitudes and behavior. How sad to see a 60-year-old behaving like a spoiled brat.
Moncton Times & Transcript – September 15, 2012
Niece creeped out by uncle’s offer
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a single gay man in my early 60s. Three years ago, my niece came out to the family as a lesbian. One year later, she married her girlfriend. My family has been wonderful, accepting me, my niece and her new wife.
At the time of the girls’ marriage, I discreetly asked if they planned to have children, in which case I would like to be the sperm donor. They didn’t say much in reply. A year later, at the family Christmas party, they made the announcement that my niece’s wife was expecting twins this July. Everyone but me was thrilled by the news. I was hurt that they had never at least talked to me regarding my offer Although we three are all gay, we are seldom in touch. I have never been invited to their home, for instance.
When their twin girls were born, I was as thrilled as the extended family. I immediately ordered a beautiful bouquet to be sent to the maternity room. Meanwhile, I asked my brother, the new grandfather, if he knew I had offered to be the donor. He said, “Yes, I knew, and it creeped out the girls.”
I am very upset at the couple. Of course I will treat the babies with great love and affection, but the joy of this event is missing for me. How do I respond to them?
GENTLE READER: Indeed, your niece and niece-in-law should have thanked you for the flowers.
Forgive Miss Manners for seizing on this easy etiquette problem. It is just that she is weak with relief that the brides did not write her at the time, asking for the polite way to decline an uncle’s wedding present of his sperm. You do not seem to appreciate that this was not like asking whether they would like the family china, to which they could have replied, “That’s so dear of you, but we have as much china as we can use.”
The only possible way to introduce this idea would have been if they had brought up the subject of having children, and you had requested permission, as an uncle, to make a personal inquiry. And then, in a seemingly offhand way, you could have asked whether your niece was perpetuating the family genes. Had they then said, “We can’t do both sides,” you could have responded, “Can I help?” That way, if they had had any interest, they could have said so. Had they instead laughed nervously, courtesy would have demanded that you rescue them by joining the laughter to pass it off as a joke.
How should you react to them now? Like a proud great-uncle, with no references to the past.